This week marked the 44th anniversary of Joseph Pilates’ death. He died in 1967 at the age of 86. So it seems only fitting that I’d honor the man by exploring the many ways that Pilates can improve your sex life. As per usual, I speak from experience.
I would hope that by now, all human inhabitants of Mother Earth know the benefits to living a healthy life, and that physical fitness leads to more energy, more confidence and less muffin top. The prouder you are of your physique, the more likely you’ll want to show it off, especially between the sheets. Personally, I feel so confident in bed, I should be getting paid. Wait. Never mind.
By practicing Pilates, you will want it both morning and night and you will be outstanding at it. I’ll break it down by using several Pilates principles by way of example.
If the pelvic floor muscles, which are a part of the core, (see article on core) are strong, then you’ll be able to increase tension, master movements and orgasm upon your command. Since I’ve become a Pilates instructor, one of the many beautiful side effects is my ability to contract and release at will. Pilates sure is empowering!
If you’re not sure where or what the pelvic floor muscles are, then as you continue to read this, pretend you’re going to pee your pants and then stop the flow of your pretend pee. Those are them.
Pilates exercises involve coordinating the breath with each movement. Emphasis is made on expansive inhalations and exhalations, which brings oxygenated blood to the muscles faster. When we can do this correctly, it leads to an increased blood flow to the sex organs. And let’s face it, who wants to suck wind when you’re having sex. I’d rather be sucking something else. Whoa, where did that come from? Improved breath will increase stamina as well.
Controlled panting is what you want, and Pilates is a perfect way to practice that control. Since the system calls for muscle control, so as to perform each exercise accurately and precisely, you become more aware of how your body moves and the function each muscle has within that movement.
Pilates is a mind body system, so there’s also a mental component. In teaching, I use imagery to achieve correct form. This requires a great deal of focus and concentration from my clients. I have different images during sex, but I’m focused nonetheless. I’m looking for impeccable form without extraneous movement, just like Pilates requires. It’s maximum sexual efficiency.
I’m not saying that by doing Pilates, it can turn you into a contortionist, but I can guarantee an increase in flexibility. The hip joints especially are worked in many of the exercises. Being able to get your legs over your head, or splay them out like a wishbone, can be very erotic. It would be nice if the ladies could do that as well.
Stability plays a vital role in Pilates, where one’s core and balance is continuously being challenged. Don’t you think it would enhance playtime, if you were able to stabilize yourself in certain sexual positions? Doggie style comes to mind, which requires balancing on all fours (some of us in the Pilates biz call this position quadruped) while your partner thrusts, bumps and grinds, shaking your foundation.
My personal example of stability and sex, includes straddling my stud like the stallion he is. I lift my knees up and off the mattress, so that I’m, not only balancing, but since my weight is shifted back on my heels, I use my glutes (ass) and hamstrings, instead of my thighs. Hello Pilates!
Mr. Pilates designed a piece of equipment called the Cadillac, which includes an attachment called the Trapeze. It allows for super fun mobilization (movement). I have a feeling that Mr. Pilates knew exactly what he was doing when he brought out the Trapeze.
I believe, or I’d like to believe, that he wanted us to practice on the Trapeze, so that we might take those moves into our bedrooms and hang from the rafters, if you’re the extreme sports type of person that is. Or so that you might fulfill your childhood dream of joining the circus.
Practicing Pilates has been proven to help with erectile dysfunction. I know nothing about this, given that my lover has the stamina and control of an 18 year old, or that of Sting. And since he’s been practicing Pilates, E.D. isn’t his problem. Making sure that the refrigerator door is shut is his problem. We all have our crosses to bear.
Now, get into the Pilates studio, so that you can mount your partner with confidence, zest, and without the fear of pulling a muscle in your groin.