The Girlfriend Mom was kicked into high gear this weekend.
I decided to give my boyfriend a break, and take one of the Girlfriend Mom kids and his friend to the movies Sunday afternoon. Quite enlightening indeed.
When I was a kid my parents always gave me money if I went out with my friend and their parents. Whether my friend’s parents ever let me pay is unclear. The point is, my parents never assumed or presumed that my friend’s parents would foot the bill. It seems that things have changed.
We went to see Rio, doesn’t matter, and I paid for the three of us. Twenty-six smackers later, thank you very much. I was happy to do it. My boyfriend always pays when we’re out with the kids. This whole topic is a whole other blog. The question of who pays for what, where and with whom always causes me anxiety. Paying for the tickets wasn’t an issue, and I knew enough to offer the kids a drink and snack. I wasn’t going to be the cheap Girlfriend Mom. I knew the score. I know they have to eat.
The Girlfriend kid wanted some candy thing and his friend wanted a slushy. Blue, red, and disgusting. Another nine bucks. Still okay, still cool. The small slushy was ginormous and when the Girlfriend Kid asked for one, I had to put my put down.
“Why don’t you guys share this one?”
“We don’t share?” You don’t share? Isn’t that one of the golden rules? Apparently when you’re twelve, it’s every man for himself. I managed to get an extra cup and they shared it that way.
Everyone had their crappy nutritious delights and we found our seats in the theater. Things were terrific until two mothers and their kids (one being an infant) decided to seat right in front of us. An infant? You’re bringing an infant to the movies? I never understood this. However, when I opened my heart, I realized that some mom’s don’t have the help or the money for help, so they had to bring their breast feeding infants to the 5pm showing of Rio. One cry out of that baby, and I was heading to the manager.
About a quarter of the way in, I felt a push against the back of my chair. I decided to give it a little time, because maybe whoever was behind me was rearranging their wedgy or stretching their legs (don’t want to get a blood clot) After the third kick, I turned around and saw a little girl, probably eight or nine, looking right at me. Her legs didn’t even reach my seat, so I wasn’t sure how she was able to kick it, but kick it she did. I gave her the stink eye and asked her to stop. She stopped.
Things were good. The movie was good and I hadn’t heard a peep out of the breast feeding baby. Then the Girlfriend Kid’s friend got up. I thought he had to go to the bathroom. SIDEBAR: When I got home, I asked my boyfriend if 12 year old’s were allowed to go to the bathroom by themselves. He said that they were, but I’m not sure how much I trust a man who lets their preteen son watch R movies.
The Girlfriend Kid’s friend stopped in front of me, bent down and said, “Can I have some cash to get a snack?” WHAT?! I was flummoxed, mainly because I didn’t know if this was a 2011 thing that all kids do, or if this child was rude, with a side order of entitlement.
I told him that I didn’t have any cash (which was true) and I wasn’t about to give him a credit card. I didn’t know how to react. Was I wrong to say no? The fact that I contemplated this proves how much I have to learn. Again, I asked my boyfriend when I got home and he assured me that it was rude and a bit disrespectful. Hey parents, are you paying attention!
In the car ride home, the two little angels couldn’t stop playing with the seats (don’t be breaking my Mini) turning up the radio to uber loud, and listening to the most inappropriate song that I have ever heard. When I told them to shut it off, the Girlfriend Kid, laughed and told me to, “Calm down. I’m turning it off.”
I can’t calm down, I don’t know what to do. Do I let you listen to it? I admit that I had a mini freak. Total mini. I didn’t want to hear the lyrics nor did I want to be around when they listened to them. I’m no prude but that shit was fucked up.
When we got home, they decided that the movie wasn’t entertaining enough, so they got their rifle bb guns, and took target practice at a street sign in our backyard, while perching themselves on our deck. The bb’s are soft pellets but I am anti any kind of gun, and shooting, so this was a bit hard to swallow, let alone watch.
They didn’t wear goggles at first but when one of the guns accidentally went off, they scampered around for glasses. The deck is off of the kitchen, where I was trying to work. I’ve been sitting so much, that I wanted to stand while I write, and the kitchen cafe table is just the right height. Riveting info, eh?
I had one eye on my computer screen and the other on the shenanigans out back. The next thing I see is the Girlfriend Kid’s friend wearing my $250 dollar Gucci sunglasses (From Italy not Canal Street) nonchalantly walking passing me in the kitchen, on his way outside. Goggles, Gucci, same thing.
Are you fucking kidding me. I ripped the glasses off of his head so fast, I think I took a few of his hairs with it. No one asked permission, it was a friggin free for all. They were officially running amuck, and I was losing control.
Forget about the writing, I now had to supervise. They decided that the street sign wasn’t fun anymore, so they grabbed a few tin cans out of the recycling bin and set those up on the deck railing. I watched, waiting for something horrible to happen. It didn’t but the cans blew off the deck and lay motionless on the grass below. I didn’t say a word because I wanted to see how long it would take them to retrieve them.
Not five minutes later, I see the Girlfriend Kid riding across the pristine green yard, on his scooter. I opened the deck door and screamed, “Please don’t ride on the lawn.” To which he replied, “No, it’s okay.” I was incredulous. Mainly because he didn’t see anything wrong with riding a motorized toy in the yard that we share with another townhouse. I screamed back, “No, it’s not okay. You’re riding on the neighbor’s grass.” I was pretty confident that they wouldn’t want tire marks on their lawn.
Don’t these kids know how to sit in a chair and read?!
They walked back into the house, and I reminded them to pick up the tin cans from out back. I forget nothing. I received head nods and went upstairs. Suffice it to say, the cans weren’t retrieved until the next morning, when I reminded them yet AGAIN.
The Girlfriend Kid’s friend slept over and, even though I told them to keep it down, because my boyfriend was still sleeping, his friend started shooting baskets on the indoor basketball hoop that hangs on the front door. I’m convinced that some kids are dense, deaf or both.
I quickly got dressed and left the house. I had to run errands before heading to my parent’s house for Passover, and I couldn’t listen to the television or the basketball stomping for one more minute. When I returned, his friend had been picked up, thank you Jesus, and the Girlfriend Kid was in front of the television set, exactly where I left him.
The cleaning lady arrived with her two kids in tow. What?! Today? Bad weekend to stop my meds. She brought the kids a couple of other times, when they were on vacation and they helped her clean. I realized yesterday, that this isn’t okay. My boyfriend and I don’t think it’s appropriate and it makes us uncomfortable. I’m going to have to have a little talk with her.
So while her kids emptied trash and cleaned toilet bowls (Seriously?) the Girlfriend Kid continued watching TV, as if nothing was going on around him. My boyfriend decided to make a late morning breakfast, so while we ate in the dining room, watching some crap rap video on the TV, the cleaning ladies’ son windexed the television stand. It was BEYOND awkward.
I looked at my boyfriend and told him that I had to get out. The chaos, noise and awkwardness was too much for me. I was unraveling. To the gym!
I finished my workout and headed back home. Please god, let the cleaning lady and her crew be gone. I can’t handle seeing them, even in my zen state. They were just pulling out of the driveway as I was pulling in. Whew. I was exhausted. I cannot imagine doing this on a daily basis. Brava to moms everywhere.